Dealing with Disappointment…

My post is a little late in the day, my apologies…

Unfortunately, I wasn’t feeling great this morning, and I had my boss riding along with me, so I was a little off kilter this morning.  Hope you all had a great day today…

Being that today is Wedding Wednesday, I decided to write about one of the not so great but inevitable sides to wedding planning and just life planning in general–One of the the hardest things, I found, about wedding planning and really planning any event in life, is that there is always some element of disappointment that comes along with it all. I tried throughout planning to not let my overall happiness be affected by disappointment and things not going the way I hoped, but let’s be serious that is a little easier said than done.

One thing that I had to constantly remind myself of, was the fact that while the wedding was important to Dan and I, that doesn’t make it important for others. The most frustrating thing for me was that there were many events that I had attended for others in the past that weren’t exactly easy or cheap for me to attend, but I made a point to be there for the person that event was celebrating. In my almost 30th year of life I have come to the realization that you just have to have really tough skin and the people you think you can count on most, are going to let you down. I’ve realized that there are people that are going to be my “always” people and there are going to be others that are going to be my “occasional” people.

My “always” people will always go out of their way to be present in my life, even if they cannot always be there physically and my “occasional” people, will be there when it is convenient for them. I think the hardest thing about this realization is sometimes the people you consider “always” people consider you as an “occasional” person.  I remember this one quote that I used to always post on AOL instant messenger that said, “Don’t make someone your priority, when you are just their option.”  I have a hard time not making people my priority in work life and personal life.  I think, though, if you don’t stop to look around and re-evaluate every now and then you are only setting yourself up to get burned.

Thankfully I have a sister, who listens to me vent.  She always tells me not to waste my energy on people that bother me often and not to hold grudges because in the end, it will only be me who really cares.  This is some sound advice and one that I try to remember and live by each and every day.  I exhaust myself overthinking everything…

In closing, just remember you don’t have to be everyone’s friend.  As nice as it is and as convenient as it is to just get along with people–there is no rule saying that you have to.  In wedding planning, you have to take into consideration who matters most and put the others behind you.  You can’t fret about the little nuances of people and their quirky, unpredictable behaviors.  Keep YOURSELF and your bride/groom HAPPY!!!!  Life is too short to not be HAPPY 🙂

Thanks for reading and have a fun NIGHT 🙂

Here is my picture of the day…

sister

Thanks for always listening… ❤ #sistersoftheyear (self proclaimed)

 

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